Now I know none of us are strangers to challenging relationships in life, but have you ever felt like you are grieving the loss of someone who is living? It is lifechanging, earth shaking, and gut wrenching, right? Hard to imagine why people are brought into our life if somehow it’s so troublesome. But what if amidst the gut wrenching torture…came one of the most beautiful epiphanies you’ve ever had?
How many people can think of someone you love who, well, to put it plainly, is a complete pain in your ass? This could be anyone, from a love interest, to a friend, to a family member. Now not only do we all have one or more of these “PIA’s”, but we are all one of these for someone else…yup sorry, but true! Everyone in your circle was placed there for a reason. Have you ever struggled with certain people not seeing you for who you really are, or constantly doing things that hurt you? So you exhaust yourself seeking the validation from them to acknowledge the “good person” you know you are by giving more and more of your time, energy, and love, cuz that will fix it right? Well not necessarily so! Sometimes this can backfire and the more you seek it, the more negative reinforcement you get in return! Some things are not meant to be fixed, including people. And sometimes people aren’t in your life for the reasons you think they are,sometimes there’s a lesson in it all.
My life since I’ve chosen to be a medium has been, well let’s just say, very challenging for some of my relationships. Some of the people closest to me no longer accept me for who I am. I had to learn to be ok with that. A battle not just unique to me or to mediums, but one we all fight at some point in our lives, when we choose to become transparent to the world and to be true to our authentic selves. So how do we handle it? Cuz I know we’ve all said this one, “wait, what, who,me? why me? what did I ever do to them”? Hahah gotcha right? And so we arrive at a crossroads in our journey…either we stay stuck in that cycle of self doubt seeking outside validation and love from others, or we take the path less traveled. The one that makes us dig deep and take a good long look at ourselves. For we are the only person that is ever really in our control to change. And when we choose to stay “stuck” that lesson will keep coming back until we get it.
It’s in our tendency as humans to want to defend ourselves when we are hurt. We want to stomp our feet and scream “I’ll show you!!”, right? LOL, but I’m here to tell you that’s unnecessary. Lao Tzu actually said, “The best fighter is never angry”! True story. The best thing you can do is to LET IT BE, (Just like the song) and keep moving forward. As you keep moving you will inevitably work thru those human emotions of anger, resentment, sadness, etc, etc. all by yourself and reach that place of acceptance of what is instead of what you want it to be. When you learn to forgive someone without ever getting an apology, when you learn to accept that everyone doesn’t have to accept you, when you learn to love someone that might not love you back the way you want them to….This is the day your life will take a detour!!! A detour that takes you off that dead end road of self doubt and onto the road of self love and self acceptance.
Are you seeing the lesson here? Are you with me? So sometimes that person that you thought was in your life for one reason, you discover was in your life for another. That person that put you thru hell…may have just taught you one of the greatest lessons of your lifetime. One that you probably contracted for in heaven prior to coming here believe it or not! And when you get back to heaven more than likely you will thank them for helping you to grow as a soul and fulfill your contract here on earth. They taught you that your happiness and fulfillment of your life’s purpose here is only dependent on one person…YOU! They taught you to be true to who you are despite what anyone else tells you or how anyone else treats you! Just last night at a reading I was channeling a woman’s Dad. I said, “who is Jimmy?” She responded, “my uncle, who my Dad hated”. I confirmed Jimmy was in heaven with Dad and immediately knew why he was bringing it up. He wanted to share that they had made ammends in heaven. Uncle Jimmy was that PIA that pushed her Dad to the limit and challenged him to dig deep in this physical world. He came thru to validate that even though they did not have the greatest relationship here, they do in heaven. The woman then responded why this made sense to her…she just recently became very close with her cousin, Jimmy’s son, and she wondered if her Dad would approve!!
My Dad used to have this saying that he would give us whenever we would be complaining about someone in our lives…”One monkey don’t stop the show!” he’d say. And suddenly I would know it’s ok to move on, cuz Dad said so. When he died I lost a piece of me. I lost a piece of my confidence in who I was, I lost my protector, my cheerleader. But in that loss a new lesson was born. In spirit my Dad has taught me how to trust myself, believe in myself, and protect myself for a change. He’s showed me I already have all the tools I need to be who I’m meant to be in this world I just need to trust them. As I get on my knees each day I now seek that validation from only one place…God’s light inside of me. The still small voice that reminds, you are enough, you are loved, and you need to keep moving forward. There is freedom in the acceptance that although some may not choose to walk beside us we will still get to where we are going. There is freedom in accepting what is instead of what we would like it to be. There is freedom in accepting our authentic selves and where that truth can take us. God has a plan for us all, and while it may not all be clear right here, right now, we need to trust it’s for our greater good in the long haul. In the wise words of Dr. Seuss…
“You have brains in your head, you have feet in your shoes, you can steer yourself in any direction you choose.”~Dr. Seuss
P.S. Don’t let any monkeys stop your show!! Lol