There is an old saying that some people come into your life as a blessing and some people come into your life as a lesson. Well I’d have to say I believe that they are one in the same. Aren’t all of our lessons blessings? If we choose to look at it that way I guess! So this blog is dedicated to my biggest lessons aka blessings in my life….my family! Hollaaa!! I know they have been waiting for this one. I don’t think it will be any surprise to any of them, as I have told them all what they bring to my life; however, acknowledgement of those you love can never be done enough! Let’s start at the top with my oldest brother Jack aka John aka Jackson aka Jake…ok you get the hint we love nicknames lol!! Jack is the epitomy of what an older brother should be. He is my wisdom, my protector, my second Dad, my “lead by example” kind of guy. He always has a funny joke and a word of wisdom, or two, when I see him. He’s not much for being the center of attention, but let me tell you he is not without presence!! This guy is worldly! The stories of the places he has traveled and the adventures he’s been on are capturing and boundless. My blessing…live life to the fullest! My lesson…don’t sweat the small stuff, or any stuff for that matter!!
Next…my sister Bernadette aka Bernie aka Bern aka smurph! So the oldest of seven girls…nuff said! LOL My Dad gave us all engraved necklaces last year for Christmas, hers said leader! Talk about pressure right! So growing up Bern was like my second mother! I was like a sponge absorbing everything she said and did. I watched her as she would put out fires, host family events, take care of her family, tie a bow on it and make it look seamlessly beautiful and without effort! What I realized as I got older is it’s not without effort. It’s with great effort! My blessing…give your heart and soul to whatever you choose to be regardless of what others may think…my lesson…time is love, it is important to take time to love yourself just as much as you love others, for a full tank always has something to give!
Ahhh Mary, aka mar, aka mars. This is the sister you don’t want to mess with! She is this petite, beautiful, ball of fire!! She is full of passion for everything in life! She has endured her fair share of challenges in life, but let me tell you, you would never know! There’s this boundless strength, creativity, and vision within her that sometimes she doesn’t even see! My blessing…never give up on that undying search for your fairytale life…my lesson…always stay loyal and true to who you are and what you believe in while amidst that search!!
Denise, aka, niecy, aka gilmartin! Without a doubt she is the family comedian, but she is also the rainbow amidst our storms. The problem solving go to girl who always has a word of advice, encouragement and something to make you smile just when you need it! She’s just like the song…Just call my naaaame and I’ll be there! My blessing…there is nothing wrong with rose colored glasses, in fact they make the world a bit brigher…my lesson…there is always a silver lining you just need to look for it…always look for it, no matter how hard it might be to find!!!
Veronica, aka ron, aka ronica. The hostess with the mostest, thoughtful and caring sister. Her husband Rob gave me an analogy of their life that suits them so perfectly, it stuck. They are like a rolling rock down a river bed. As it journeys down the river it’s edges become smooth and beautiful, all the while solidifying its core. My blessing…take time to have fun with the people you love, they are your core…my lesson…true success is not determined by material possessions, but by how much you love your life and live it to the fullest!!
Patricia, aka pat, aka pumpelina. She is the giver, of her heart and soul. Her eyes are the mirror of her soul and she is the girl that can look right into yours! Her music brings tears to your eyes and is without a doubt one of her greatest gifts in this life! My blessing…its ok to let people see your softer side…we all have one!.. My lesson…remember that everyone you encounter has a story, ask them about it, allow yourself to step inside it even, see what you can learn from it!
Eileen, aka leen, aka beans. She is the whistle while you work, hook up my plow and i’ll get rid of the snow girl. She and her husband Dan are two peas in a pod. They are a couple of the most grounded people I know. There is no need for grey when everything can be white! My blessing…if you find yourself amidst chaos take a moment to pause and enjoy it, it just may become one of your fondest memories some day…my lesson..with the proper footing obstacles become challenges that you can learn how to overcome!
Tom, aka, tommy, aka the boss. More like rocky than tommy gunn, he’s the fighter you want in your corner when they ring that bell, but at his center he’s all heart! My blessing…stick by those who stick by you, for they, one day, will be your glue!..My lesson…Keep it on your own mat, challenge yourself more than you challenge others the reward is far greater!
My parents, Ron and Bob, aka nana and Papa. Next to God, they are my foundation. Sky’s the limit. My blessing…your family is your core, they are in your life for a reason, find that reason! My lesson…there is one in every minute of every day… reach out and grab it, it’s never too late!!!
Last, but not least is my husband Derek, aka Deke, aka George, aka Belush. Ahhh, my highschool sweetheart. He’s the one that takes away my grey and shows me the black and white. He is the zoom on my lens that makes everything that much clearer. He is my heart and soul along with my children!!! My blessing…together we are an amazing force that can achieve anything…my lesson…do unto others as you would have done unto you…its that simple…its that simple!!!
Sometimes things are so simple in life we miss them! Take a look around you, at the people that surround you. What do they bring to you, teach you, how do they make you feel? What do they inspire within you? “The book of life is filled with incoherent riddles. Play with Life, laugh with life, dance lightly with life, and smile at the riddles of life, knowing that life’s only true lessons, are writ small in the margin.” ~Johnathan Lockwood Huie